Why do girls say “I thought we were just friends” or “let us be just friends”
This Question has been in my mind ever since I have realized my attraction towards the opposite sex.
Let me write down my story in chronological order –
14y – Well this was a funny age as far as I recall. Despite studying in a Co-ed school, I was always scared to talk to any girl. Ironically, I had spent my entire childhood with them yet I never spoke to anyone.
I was lost in my world of WWF (later they changed to WWE) and poor performance of the Indian Cricket Team.
15y – Due to a School project, we were bound to interact with the girls of our class. Needless to say, I interacted with them to the minimum level and I still recall How much I feared calling them on their land line phones (I wish Mobile would had been commercialized few years earlier).
16y – Every day I noticed her, Every day she didn’t noticed me I spent my entire year, admiring her looks. Before you ask me , let me answer the question occurring in your mind – I never talked to her 😛
17y – This time I did fall in love (Sarcastically, we do FALL in love). Unlike my previous love, this time I did talked to her. (Credit to Cell phone and Free incoming calls). I would spent hours talking to her in the night. We became really good friends and finally one day I proposed her and she said “I always considered you as my VERY good friend”
What does VERY means?
*bang* First heartbreak, now I look back it was a funny moment of pain and agony.
We both laugh over it now (Yes I’m still in touch with her & years later, she did confessed to me that she had a crush on me until I blew my chances by proposing to her , i never understood this line) ROFL.
18y – I got into a premium engineering college in Bangalore but nobody told me about the scarcity of girls in the electrical engineering.
We used to feel happy when we used to compare our situation with mech guys but we used to feel sad when we used to compare our situation with I.T guys.
I was settling into a metro culture and exploiting the new found freedom.
19y – My roommate’s girlfriend introduced me to her random friend, who recently had a break up and I offered her my shoulders to cry on. I was smitten by her cute looks and her blue eyes. We soon became 2 am friends and I would again spent hours talking to her.
Finally on valentine day, I proposed and history repeated itself when she said “We are just friends and let us keep the relationship like this”.
I never understood if we were just friends then why would she give a me love signals such as – a sms saying I miss you , holding hands, getting possessive when I did not pick up her call, she used to become jealous when she would see me talking to a another girl.
On that day, I realized that “No one can ever understand what’s going on in the girls mind?”
Years later, I realized that “I was ON THE HOOK”. (watch HIMYM to know about it)
Anyways we still remain friends for a while until she blew it up by hurting my feelings.
Lesson learned – You can’t be friends with someone whom you like without hurting your sentiments.
20y – “Life Moves On”. I started spending my days watching movies, completing TV series and reading Sidney Sheldon’s Novel. Until one day one of my friend who is a dentist called me up to be a patient for his exam.
I volunteered, trust me never do that in you life as I spent next 3 hours sitting on a dentist chair and looking at the ceiling with my mouth wide open. I thought I will get my teeth cleaned instead I got my teeth experimented.
Anyways after his exam, he introduced me to his classmates.
When she removed her doctors mask, I knew my hatred for girls suddenly turned into love. We became friends and started hanging out, we would spent countless hours together, she nicknamed me “Tiku”. This nickname is still used by my Bangalore friends to tease me.
Whether I’m in the class or I’m walking, I would be found chatting with her through SMS. Finally, I mustered all courage and proposed to her. She looked at me and said ”Let us not complicate things, I want to keep it simple by been just friends”
*Hammer* We remained friends till now. I’m in touch with her through occasional exchanges of messages.
21y – Got placed in Infosys and also got into a relationship which lasted for next 2 years. She was a doctor , I was a engineer. Perfect example of opposite attracts.
22y – Learned a great deal about human psychology from the relationship such as Ego, Temper, Compromise, Temptation, Possessiveness, and Happiness etc
23y – Had a break up and again leaned a great deal about human psychology from the relationship such as Boredom, Memories, and Moments etc
24y – I still haven’t lost the hope in Love. Someday I will find “THE ONE” !!
P.S – In the morning, my flat mate shared a story of his friend who is heartbroken when a girl broke his heart by saying “Let us be friends”. It invoked memories in my mind which I noted down above.
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PrAts!
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