|“Happy 25th Birthday sweetheart”, he gave her warm hug and kissed her.
He gave her a Tommy Hilfiger watch and said “We are going out for a dinner in the evening to celebrate.”
She was very happy and excited. They knew each other from 2 years & with every passing year, their relationship grew stronger.
She reached home, sat down in the dining room and started replying to whoever wished her on Facebook.
Her father walked towards her and sat down near her. He asked her “How was your b’day and where are you giving the b’daytreat “.
She replied “I am giving my b’day treat in pizza hut”.
After few formal questions related with her work, his father said “Now you’re a grown up girl, it’s time for you to get married”.
She was shocked, she never anticipated a marriage, she replied “I am not ready; I am too young for marriage. I’m just turned 24″.
Her father tried to persuade her “You know your mother doesn’t keep well these days &I am also getting old. Above all if we start looking now, we will find a good guy for you by next year. If you wait for few more years, all the good guys will be taken. 24 is the right age for a girl to get married”
After a brief pause & with a hesitation, he asked “If you have found someone, you can let me know about him”.
She was quite as she didn’t know what to reply as she hadn’t thought about this situation. She dodged the conversation by saying I need some time to think about it.
In the evening, she met him and narrated the entire conversation to him.
After the narration ended, she said to him “It is high time. You need to talk to my father”.
He was confused; he didn’t knew what to say. He said “It’s a very big decision of life, I need some time to think about it”.
Later in the night, he sat down and started thinking about marriage.
Numerous questions started popping into his mind.
“Am I ready”
“Am I financially stable to support both of us”.
The more he thought, the more he got confused. He didn’t know what to do. He felt trapped.
The thought ofMarriage was freaking him out.
Only clarity at that moment was that He loved her a lot and wanted to spend rest of his life with her. He knew she was the one. He imagined marrying her but according to his plan he was going to marryher after 2 years. Not now.
He cursed Indian culture of getting married early.
He walked into his roommate room and narrated the dilemma to him.
His roommate asked him “Are you ready?“ he replied “I don’t know”.
His roommate said – “Remember marriage requires two things –
His roommate was right.
He could barely meet out his expenses, How could he supports a living of both of them. He also had a dream to pursue higher education and he wanted to achieve that dream.
On one side there was LOVE.
&On the other side there was DREAM.
He was devastated. He wanted both but he knew he can’t have both of them right now so he had to make a tough choice.
He couldn’t choose.
His heart wanted to choose her while his mind wanted to achieve his dream.
He wasn’t sure whom to choose.
The pain of compromising on one choice and the difficulty to choose was killing him.
His heart was aching.
He knew he had to face the situation. He cannot leave her hanging in the middle. He needs to be transparent with her on the decision.
Next day, they decided to meet. Still he wasn’t sure what he wanted.
He was divided into two parts. His mind was fluctuating between the options.
Finally, He said to her “I am 24;it’s too early for me to marry.I love you but……… ”
Before he could complete the sentence, tears rolled out of her eyes. He couldn’t see her crying. His heart started melting.
“Please don’t cry. I love you. Please try to understand my situation & please ask your father that you need 2 years”.
Before he could say anything more, she walked away from the situation without uttering a single word.
P.S –Sometimes we have to make tough decisions in life which we don’t know whether they are right or wrong.
YES or NO !
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